family ties (part 2)
why is it that we treat those we're closest with the worst?
I came to this realization a few weeks ago as my dad, sister and I had a very frank conversation about our relationship to each other. We often disagree with our dad about methods of doing things...beliefs...and sometimes, we're too quick to criticize without thinking of the consequences. It's easy to take for granted that someone loves you unconditionally, so you go ahead and be brutally honest...but little effort is given to being tactful.
Bottom line: if you're going to be ultra considerate to that person you're chatting with on the phone at work, then you should at the very least apply that same ethos to the people you live with. And I think the more you try to be nice, the more natural it will be in the long run. That's what I'm banking on...
posted by vespertine @ 9:15 PM
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i learned this only after leaving china. not taking the best people for granted anymore.
I think we do it because we know in our hearts that no matter how much we melt down in front of family, no matter how much we cry and yell and scream, they will always be family and will always love us just as much as before. Family lets you be yourself, even if that self is ugly and flawed. The rest of the world is where you have to put on your best face - you need somewhere to recover from that :)
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